The dictionary defines emotion as "an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness." Do we govern emotion, or does emotion govern us? If one governs emotion, then he does not allow emotion to dictate his life. He is aware that emotion can fill his mind when he is dealing with various situations. However, he does not allow this emotion to govern, or dictate his life, or the decisions that he makes. Conversely, a person who allows his emotion to govern himself is going to submit to emotion and allow it to control the decisions that he, or she makes. This causes a person to be unsure of and to second guess his decisions, neither of which is good. This person can be in a variety of extreme states, such as depression and euphoria. They can be "sky high" and then "crash" shortly thereafter.
Decisions should be made, based upon facts, not emotion. This cognitive discourse can allow you to not fall into the "trap" of the emotional dilemma. Gear your mind to discard the emotion, and stay with the facts and you will be a more leveled person.
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